Why Being a "Nice Guy" Doesn’t Work

Stop Being So Nice — It’s Not Helping

I used to think that being polite, helpful, and always doing the right thing would get me everything — love, success, recognition. Spoiler: it doesn’t.

Then I read No More Mr. Nice Guy — and something clicked.
That book hits like a slap in the face for anyone who built their personality around people-pleasing. Anyone afraid of conflict, who puts others’ needs first, who silently hopes the world will reward them for being nice. It won’t.

What Glover Makes Crystal Clear

Glover breaks it down like this:
— Being “nice” isn’t kindness — it’s fear
— Suppressing anger, ambition, and desire doesn’t make you good — just convenient
— And no one respects the convenient. They use them. They avoid them.
— Women aren’t attracted to them, friends don’t listen to them. Their voice fades out.

The Core Insight

Here’s the core insight:
If you're always trying to be the “good guy,” you’ve already betrayed yourself.

After this book, you start getting your spine back.
You start saying “no.”
Doing what you want.
Living with a sense of inner strength, not inner debt.

The world doesn’t need another nice guy.
The world needs real men.
Solid. Honest. Anchored.